Saboteurs
Saboteurs are the negative voices in your head that hold you back from achieving your goals. They are the self-doubt, the fear of failure, and the perfectionism that keep you from taking risks and stepping outside of your comfort zone.
There are 10 different saboteur voices, each with its own unique way of sabotaging your success:
The Judge: Criticizes and condemns you, both internally and externally.
The Victim: Blames others for your problems and misfortunes.
The Controller: Tries to control everything and everyone around you, leading to stress and anxiety.
The Hyper-Achiever: Sets unrealistic expectations for yourself and others, leading to burnout and discouragement.
The Hyper-Rationalizer: Overanalyzes and worries about everything, leading to indecision and inaction.
The Pleaser: Puts the needs of others before your own, leading to resentment and anger.
The Rebel: Defies authority and resists change, leading to conflict and isolation.
The Avoider: Procrastinates and avoids difficult tasks, leading to missed deadlines and lost opportunities.
The Perfectionist: Sets impossibly high standards for yourself and others, leading to frustration and disappointment.
The Entitlement: Believes that you deserve special treatment and that the world owes you something, leading to disappointment and resentment.
The saboteurs are formed in childhood as a way to protect us from harm. For example, if you were criticized a lot as a child, you may develop a Judge saboteur that criticizes you all the time. Or, if you were often bullied, you may develop a Victim saboteur that blames others for your problems.
As adults, the saboteurs can hold us back from achieving our goals. They can make us afraid to take risks, doubt our abilities, and give up easily. But the good news is that we can learn to identify and silence our saboteurs.
How to identify and silence your saboteurs
The first step to silencing your saboteurs is to identify them. What are the negative voices that you hear in your head? Once you know who your saboteurs are, you can start to challenge their thoughts and beliefs.
Here are some tips for challenging your saboteur thoughts:
Ask yourself if the thought is really true. Is there any evidence to support the thought? If not, let it go.
Replace the saboteur thought with a more positive one. For example, if your saboteur is telling you that you're not good enough, replace that thought with the sage thought that you are capable and worthy of success.
Be kind to yourself. Everyone has saboteurs. It's important to be kind to yourself and accept yourself for who you are, flaws and all.
It takes time and practice to silence your saboteurs. But it is worth it, because Positive Intelligence can help you to achieve your goals and live a more fulfilling life.
If you are struggling to identify and silence your saboteurs on your own, there are many resources available to help you. There are books, articles, and even online courses that can teach you more about Positive Intelligence and how to develop it. You can also find a mentor or coach who can help you on your journey.
